Domination storylove involves a strong, frightening leader-type and
Recovery storylove is helping a troubled person overcome serious
Garden storylove requires work and time, constant weeding and
Partnership storylove relationships are like a jobeach person has
duties to do.
Fantasy storya prince/princess is waiting for me; well be blissful
Lets Fight storyarguing and fighting is exciting, fun, and healthy.
Laugh-It-Off storyhumor is easier and better than seriously
discussing a problem.
Multiple-Lovers storythe more attractive people I can attract the
Give-and-Take storyone loves to make money, the other loves to
Science Fiction storyattracted to strange, unusual, crazy, wild lovers.
Theater storyall the world is a stage and I love acting on it.
What is your love story?
Considering these stories (there are many possible), what is your
love story? If your story isnt yet clear to you, consider these factors:
(1) how and with whom did you learn to love as a child? (2) What kind
of love experiences have you hadwhat kind of persons were
attractive to you and what kinds did you attract? What were the
attributes of your most appealing partners? What characteristics
seemed to lead to your loss of interest? (3) What ideals or dreams
about love still pluck your heartstrings?
If you are pretty sure of your love story but a relationship just
hasnt worked out, then perhaps you can decide how your story needs
to be changed and how you need to experiment with new approaches
and expectations in love. The results of these new real life experiences
may permit you to consciously change your unconsciously developed
love story into a more satisfying life drama.
Sternbergs story approach is simple, appealing, and interesting.
The stories make intuitive sense to us. One can readily imagine the
likely course of events for people with specific personalities and needs.