identifying our faulty logic and automatic ideas (such as pessimistic or
self-critical thoughts) as well as developing new and better ways of
thinking or coping, etc.
(4) If none of the forgetting, behavioral, and cognitive techniques
have worked after a couple of months of daily effort, then an effort to
gain insight into the persistence of the upsetting
memory/thoughts/feelings is another choice. Chapter 15 concentrates
on self-understanding, including uncovering needs and motivations
that one has not been aware of. Just reading and understanding other
cases similar to yours could be helpful. But when one seeks new
insight, the usual and best approach is to see a therapist specializing
in the kind of stress or trauma that you have experienced. In one form
or another, insight therapy seeks to establish an absolutely safe place
where all thoughts, feelings, needs, wishes... can be explored and
disclosed to the therapist (and yourself). Obviously, this is not a quick
fix...count on it taking months. Moreover, considering the typical
therapist's fee is $100 a session or more and that many people are not
covered by insurance, long-term psychotherapy is not a practical
solution for many people.
References cited in this chapter are listed in the Bibliography (see
link on the book title page). Please note that references are on pages
according to the first letter of the senior author's last name (see
alphabetical links at the bottom of the main Bibliography page).