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III. I want to gain certain skills so I can handle problems
better:
____ be a good listener, empathic, able to disclose my true
self (Chapters 9 and 13)
____ stand up for my rights, refuse to be taken advantage of
(Chapters 8, 13 and 14)
____ make good decisions, avoid impulsive or uninformed
choices (Chapters 4, 11, 13 and 14)
____ how to meet people, social and dating skills (Chapters 9,
13 and 14)
____ study or test-taking skills, how to concentrate better
(Chapter 13)
____ time management, scheduling, reducing procrastination
(Chapters 3, 4, 11 and 13) and work on underlying needs
____ leadership and persuasion skills. (Chapter 13)
____ parenting skills and relating to children better (Chapters
4, 9 and 11)
____ handling money, budgeting, controlling impulsive buying
(Chapters 4, 11 and 13) and figure out underlying emotions
____ choosing a career, planning out my life, making
educational plans (Chapter 3 and 13)
IV. I want to change the way I think, more specifically:
____ become more hopeful or optimistic, less negative view of
the world (Chapters 6 and 14)
____ be more tolerant of others or myself, more accepting of
what is (Chapters 7, 9 and 14)
____ be more willing to try something different, more brave,
adventurous (Chapters 4, 8, 11, 13 and 14)
____ reduce my own attitudes or expectations or views that
upset me (Chapters 6, 9 and 14)
____ learn to think straight and logically, stop deceiving
myself (Chapter 14)
____ learn positive mental attitudes, self-suggestions, self-
hypnosis (Chapter 14)
____ take more responsibility for my problems, their solution
& my life (Chapters 3, 8 and 14)
____ develop a philosophy of life and learn how to live by it
(Chapters 3, 4, 11 and 14)
____ increase my motivation, overcome my reluctance to
change & work hard (Chapters 3, 4, 11 and 14)
V. I want to understand what makes me tick, why I do the
things I do, the unconscious motives and dynamics within me:
____ uncover and understand the past experiences that still
bother me (Chapters 9, 14 and 15)
____ become more aware of my self-deceptions and defense
mechanisms (Chapters 5, 9, 14 and 15)
____ recognize the "games" being played by me and by others
(Chapters 9 and 15)
