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Chapter 7: Anger and Aggression
   Anger and Aggression
       Introduction—An Overview of Anger
       Definition of Terms
       Recognizing Anger
           Hidden Anger—passive-aggressiveness
           How angry are you?
       A case of jealous anger
   Understanding Anger: Facts and Theories
       How much hatred is there in the world? The 2002 WHO Report
       How do we get so angry? Sternberg’s theory
       How anger interacts with other emotions and factors
       Are some people just “evil”? If not, how do they learn to be so awful?
       The Control of Emotions
           Society tries to control meanness with harsh punishment
           Society doesn’t try prevention
       Innate, genetic, hormonal & physical factors
       Frustration-Aggression Hypothesis
           Displacement of anger
           My conclusions about catharsis
           A historical overview of the Frustration-Aggression Theory
       Social Learning Theory
       Aggression and child rearing practices
       Self-hatred and self-reports describing anger
       Mental processes that can generate anger/aggression
           Disliking people who are different
           Hating people for “no reason”
           Pain leads to aggression
       Internal Dynamics of Aggression
           Anger-generating thoughts
           Put-down games and psychological put-downs
           Anger and anxiety, guilt, depression, dependency, and sex
           The effects of gender roles and cultural differences
           Psychological excuses for aggression; anger may pay off
   Anger in Intimate Relationships
       Marital conflict
           Dealing with the “intimate enemy”
           Trying to get our way
           Finding better ways to resolve anger
           Psychological abuse in intimate relationships
       Physical abuse of spouses and children
           How do we start being physical?
           Statistics about abuse of “loved ones”
           How common is wife rape?
           Abuse within the family
           Why do women stay?
           Can abusers change?
           The long-term effects of abuse within a family
           Books and websites about domestic violence
       Child abuse
           The consequences of child abuse or severe punishment
           Controlling yourself while punishing your child
           Sources of information: Dealing with problem children
           Anger is usually a two-way street
       Parent-teenager conflicts
           Getting closer again
   Distrusting Others
       How to become more trusting
   Disliking Others without Valid Reasons: Prejudice
       Unconscious prejudice
       Understanding our own prejudices—Allport and DuBois
       Prejudice can take many forms
       Extreme prejudice
       You don’t think you are prejudiced any more?
       Is intimacy a possible antidote to racial prejudice?
       Experimentally created prejudice and new research
       The authoritarian personality and prejudice
       Integration: Does it reduce racial prejudice?
       New methods for changing stereotypes, emotions and prejudice
       Self-help methods to reduce our own prejudices
       Books and websites about reducing prejudices
   Methods for Handling Our Own Aggression and Anger
       An important long-term concern
       Self-help methods must be tailored to each person’s needs
       Four popular books about reducing anger and tidbits
           Bradley P. Barris (2002), The Miracle of Living Without Anger
           Les Carter (2003), The Anger Trap
           Carl Semmelroth (2005), The Anger Habit in Relationships
           Lynne Namka (2002), How to Let Go of Your Mad Baggage
           Tidbits of information about anger and violence
           Emotional rumination vs. thoughtful reflection
       Using methods from different levels for developing your own self-help plan
       Level I: Anger or aggression-control methods that focus on simple behaviors and thoughts
       Level II: Methods for reducing or controlling anger
       Level III: Skills involved in avoiding or reducing anger
       Level IV: Cognitive processes involved in reducing your aggression
           Buddhist teachings about controlling anger
           More cognitive methods described in this book
           Forgiveness—Details of cognitive ways to reduce anger
       Level V: Become aware and neutralize unconscious causes of aggression
       Self-Help books and articles for anger problems
       Websites and videos about reducing your own aggressiveness
       Warning: Please realize that intense anger can be dangerous
   Dealing with an Aggressive Person
       Coping with rape—a horrible and scary crime
       Dealing with a stalker
       Recommended reading about aggressive people
       Reducing the other person’s anger and aggression
       The angry child or violent teen
   If You Are a Victim of Violence or Bullying
   Social-Educational Solutions to Violence

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