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I expect to pass through the world but once. Any good therefore that I
can do, or any kindness that I can show to any fellow creature, let me
do it now. Let me not defer or neglect it, for I shall not pass this way
again.
-Stephen Grellet
Step 5:
Select the Self-Help Methods
Select self-help methods and organize them into an overall
treatment plan that will be most effective in producing the
desired self-change.
In the chapters below, you will find many self-help methods
recommended for these problems. It is important to read the chapters
related to your problem.
Nature of your concern
Chapters that will help you
understand the problem
Deciding on a philosophy of life
Chapter 3
Changing your behavior or habits
Chapters 4 and 11
Dealing with anxiety and fears
Chapters 5 and 12
Dealing with sadness, low esteem
Chapters 6, 12 and 14
Dealing with anger and prejudice
Chapters 7, 12, 13 and 14
Dealing with dependency, conformity
Chapters 8, 12 and 13
Understanding yourself and others
Chapters 9, 14 and 15
Love, marriage, and sex
Chapter 10
You will find that most situations aren't so simple that you only
need to read one chapter, however. Here is why: Each of the How-To-
Understand chapters (3 to 10) breaks the topic into the five parts:
behavior, emotions, skills, mental processes, and unconscious factors.
Thus, chapter 6 on depression will refer you to chapter 4 because
depressed people need to be active--behaving--and chapter 6 will also
refer you to chapter 3 if guilt is involved and to chapter 13 if you need
social skills to get out and have fun and so on. Before you are done,
you may feel like you have had to read almost the whole book because
